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Do You Have Capacity?

March 10, 2021

Have you ever found yourself saying, “I don’t have the capacity to deal with this right now”? Or alternatively, have you ever thought to yourself, “if one more thing gets added to my plate I’m gonna snap, crackle and pop”? Well… welcome to the Maximum Capacity Club!!!

As black women, many of us are running around at what I call ‘Maximum Capacity’ and it’s directly tied to the ‘Strong Black Woman Syndrome’.

When I say capacity, I’m talking about the amount of time and energy available to handle all the moving pieces in your busy life. Specifically, the numerous hats you wear and the countless competing priorities you juggle on a daily basis. Between being “the one” in your family and friend circles that everyone can and does lean on, to being the “one” at work who makes things happen no matter how many other items are on your top priority list. Being everything to everybody Wears. You. Out.

Now when I say ‘Strong Black Woman Syndrome’, I’m referring to how black women are perceived and expected to be able to ‘do it all’. This includes being responsible for raising children, caring for parents, managing a career and being there for everyone, except for themselves. And if you add being married or in a relationship to the mix, that leaves even less capacity to add ourselves to that growing list of priorities.

After being forced to take time off from work in order to save my life, I realized that something had to change not only in how I operated but also for the millions of other women fighting the same fight.

Not only is this syndrome of self-sacrifice apparent in society, unfortunately, it’s also glorified. How many times have you heard “Thank you for being so flexible,” or, “I don’t know what I would do if you weren’t able to help out”. I’m sure it’s more than you can count on your fingers and toes combined. This glorification and praise for being the “end all, be all” has many of us running around mentally exhausted, emotionally detached and physically ill – operating beyond maximum capacity and on fumes.

I am speaking to you from personal experience. As a wife, mother of two, and leader with over a decade of corporate human resources under my belt, I secretly struggled with having too much on my plate and living at maximum capacity. So much so, that in 2019, it landed me right in ICU with my organs shutting down due to the amount of stress that I was under in my personal and professional life. After being forced to take time off from work in order to save my life, I realized that something had to change not only in how I operated but also for the millions of other women fighting the same fight.

As a Capacity Coach, I want to share a few telltale signs that you might be operating at maximum capacity, as well as 3 practical ways you can increase your capacity after reading this article.

Signs You’re at Max Capacity

Chances are that you have been running on ‘E’ for longer than you can remember, which makes it that much more difficult to recognize that you’re literally giving from an empty cup. The world normalizing #teamnosleep and equating being busy with being successful are just two reasons you can thank for this disconnect. Here are the top 5 signs that you’re likely at max capacity.

Now that you have a better idea of what maximum capacity looks like, allow me to provide you with some tips on getting your capacity together.

If you’d like to check your capacity, take advantage of my free Capacity Calculator at https://bit.ly/FreeCapacityCalculator.

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